‘Freaks and Geeks’ was a show where our individuality was really celebrated.
A dress is so great because you can grab a dress, then you either wear it with tights or no tights, depending on what the weather is outside. You can throw a little jacket over it; you can take the jacket off. It’s very easy.
After ‘Freaks and Geeks,’ I dealt with several producers who wanted to cover up all my beauty marks, every single mole on my body. They tried to cover them on my first two episodes of ‘Dawson’s Creek,’ and it just looked ridiculous, so I had to put my foot down. But it’s not something I’m insecure about.
Also, this is what a pregnant Busy Philipps does in her free time, I’m taking master fondant cake decorating class with Anna from ‘Ace of Cakes’ at Duff’s Charm City Cakes. It’s, like, 4 three-hour classes.
And then I went to ‘Dawson’s Creek,’ which is a show that was, for better or for worse, all about the language. It was a word-perfect show, which I’d never had any experience with. And it was really shocking for me. I felt really hemmed in. At the time, it wasn’t my favorite working experience.
Any character, for me, always comes together in the hair, makeup, and wardrobe. Shoes especially. For some reason, shoes really do it for me because they help me figure out how the character walks.
Anybody who works with me knows this: I always repeat wardrobe in my characters. We’re trying to play real people.
As a television actor, when we work in TV, what we’re doing is making a product so that networks can sell ad space.
As an actor, it’s always fun when you’re able to feel like there’s freedom to explore things and try out jokes and be funny.
As parents, you want to try to mitigate your children’s pain.
As you fall in love with friends, you want to spend more and more time with each other.
At the time – but we’ve since made amends – James Franco and I really didn’t get along. When we were on ‘Freaks and Geeks,’ we were 19, and we really, really disliked each other. He shoved me to the ground once; it was really brutal. We’re friends now, and we really like each other now as adults – but as kids, we did not get along.
Birdie is amazing and such an incredible child and I’m having such a great time being a mom but I still want to have a career and I still look forward to auditions and parts, and when I don’t get them I’m disappointed.
Don’t get me wrong: I love ‘Moana!’ But when it gets to the point where you find yourself singing Disney songs in your dreams, you have an issue.
Ever since I was a teenager, I always had a very strong sense of my own personal style. Kind of for better or for worse – actually I don’t think it’s ever been for worse. The way that I dress has always been a pretty accurate reflection of my personality and my life.
Everybody asks me questions about the inside of James Franco’s mouth.
For the most part, these awards shows, while they are fun, they’re high-pressure for the people who are nominated and for those walking the red carpet.
From time to time I think I made some errors in judgment, but I have some really fashionable friends and I feel I’ve cultivated my own sense of style and what I feel comfortable with over the years.
Honestly, I don’t have time for a lot of TV. And it’s unfortunate, because I love TV.
I actually feel like, for a lot of my career, I wasn’t able to show my comedic range. I did a lot of dramas and dramedies. I was on ‘E.R.’ That’s not generally thought of as a funny show.
I always pack a travel snack bag. You don’t want to get stuck without snacks no matter where you go!
I called my mom sobbing when Birdie was a few months old and said, ‘I’m sorry. All this time, I had no idea how much you loved me.’
I certainly know women who had children, quit their jobs, and still have full-time nannies. That’s who these women are: Even to the detriment of their own relationship with their kids, they want to appear perfect Martha Stewart moms.
I do think moms should be given a break, all across the board. And I think that the most important thing is that you’re healthy. After I had my little girl, I wanted to be healthy for her and have a healthy body image so that she hopefully grows up to see that her self worth isn’t defined by how thin she is.
I don’t believe in guilty pleasures. If you enjoy something, there’s nothing guilty about it.
I don’t ever feel like I have to stop myself from complaining about how hard it is to be an actress. I mean, it’s not that hard.
I don’t wear a lot of jeans, which I know is a controversial statement. I just don’t feel the most like myself in jeans.
I feel like it’s the last frontier: the weight thing with women. I think that so many women, like, even myself, I’m so mean to myself about my body sometimes, or I can be judgmental of other people for their bodies. I don’t know how to get over it.
I find it to be strange that people get obsessed about how fast actresses and celebrities are taking off their baby weight. I guess people like to look to them and feel better about themselves or feel worse about themselves.
I had a baby with no pain medicine, mainly because most people I talked to didn’t think I’d be able to do it. So there!
I had really specific ideas of what kind of mom I was going to be and what kind of things I was going to provide for my child – even down to the organic, wooden toys Birdie was going to be allowed to chew on. Then cut to my daughter being obsessed with every plastic, 99-cent store toy.
I have great ideas, but the follow through is always really difficult for me. As my kid gets a little bit older, if I feel like I have a little bit more time on my hands, I’d like to get more into developing ideas and writing things.
I have had moments where I’ve felt like, ‘I’m going to feel a little guilty if I don’t put the baby down for her nap today, but I really need to go to that spin class. And that’s good for my health and my mental well-being, so I think the nanny can put her down for her nap, and I’m going to be OK with that.’
I have my own grown-up versions of temper tantrums, too. I have a hard time not getting hurt when my kids have meltdowns.
I have the emergency kit in my purse that has double-sided tape and Tylenol, and a small energy bar. I’m the one that has an extra lip gloss just in case.
I have the same pet peeve as Anderson Cooper, which is bare feet in public. I hate it. It so grosses me out, especially in New York. Oh my God, New York in the summer with people and their feet in their sandals and their flip-flops, like get it away!
I have to make a dress out of recycled materials for my kid’s preschool ‘Project Runway’-like assignment. I’m currently fusing plastic bags.
I identify as a feminist. I have so many feminist beliefs – and then I’m so mean to myself about my body sometimes.
I just like working with people that I respect and think are really funny.
I know so many people who actually just watch television on their computers now and don’t even really watch their TV anymore.
I like some pants; I just don’t like jeans very much. Dresses are so much easier because I don’t have to think very hard.
I like starting off the new year fresh. I’m excited to see how 2013 turns out. Maybe because I’m an actress and I am always on a diet and fitness program, but my New Year’s resolution is to let myself be nice to myself about my body.
I love Banana Boat’s brand. They don’t test on animals; they’re natural. Their kids’ products are amazing.
I love Mexican food.
I love little Peter Pan collars and little puff sleeves.
I love my nose! I was so nervous when I got pregnant that I was going to get that weird nose spread that you sometimes see pregnant ladies get.
I love proving that I can do something.
I love that we’ve chipped away at the celluloid closet and have wonderful programs that feature gay and lesbian characters in really rich, fully developed ways.
I make sure that I’m not focused on other things when I’m spending time with my children.
I never doubted that I would work, and every time I went to an audition, I went into the room with the knowledge that I was going to get the part. Ninety-nine times out of 100, I didn’t.
I never underestimate the power of hot rollers for your hair and eyelash curlers for your eyelashes.
I only became a celebrity because I had a kid. Before I was pregnant nobody cared. I joke to my agent that having a baby made my career.
I really try to do and eat the same thing every day when I’m home and in my routine.
I remember dealing with bullies in high school and being put down because I was different.
I talk a lot. I’m very decisive.
I think it’s important for kids to express themselves with bad fashion. I struggle a little bit now because I have a daughter and I feel with fashion, like they’re sexualizing the kids so young. Little kids in high heels and that kind of thing is really difficult for me to wrap my head around.
I think people find a lot to relate to in my social media, being a mom, and trying to live my best life, and I’m a fan of Oprah and other things people are fans of, and my heart breaks when there are tragedies, like everyone else, and I want to help.
I try to be aware of my kids’ autonomy in terms of my Instagram, but I do post them a lot. I would never want to post something that would embarrass them or that later they’d feel some sort of shame for.
I wanted a half-hour, single-camera comedy with a great lead where I could be No. 2 or 3 on the call sheet, and it was going to get on the air. Those were my criteria, and they sent me ‘Cougar Town.’ I read it and loved it.
I was always a very quirky kid. I remember very early like fourth or fifth grade doing pratfalls to make my friends laugh, like falling on the ground on the playground and doing like bits and characters.
I was asked to lose weight by a network for a TV pilot. The conversation happens because you get a job, and your agent or manager calls, and they say, ‘They are so excited about you. They just think there is no one better for this part, and they want you to look and feel your best. They really feel that that could include losing 15 or 20 pounds.’
I was in New York and I went to a meatball shop with my friend and there was paparazzi there and I thought, ‘How did you know that someone was gonna come to this meatball shop?’ But I was pregnant and I wanted a meatball sub and let me tell you, it was delicious.
I went to public high school in Scottsdale, Arizona, and I certainly wore a lot of makeup in high school. I experimented with a cat eye for a semester, and then, you know, a strong red lip because Courtney Love in Hole was all the rage.
I would never be on a reality show.
I’m a big believer in letting kids have as much responsibility as you can give them in terms of helping around the house and getting themselves dressed.
I’m a jewelry girl. I became with friends with designer Irene Neuwirth a few years ago. At that point, I just used to wear my wedding rings. Very low key. Now, if I could, I’d be draped from head to toe in her jewelry all the time. Everything she makes is beautiful.
I’m a sucker for a sale. I don’t understand why anyone wants to pay full price for anything because everything goes on sale. I love sale websites. In fact – this is almost kind of embarrassing – I’m coming from an Isabel Marant sample sale.
I’m actually incapable of lying. I’m like a parody of a person who can’t lie.
I’m an actor who works, and a lot of this is luck for me, that I get to be a part of really great shows that have these cult followings.
I’m big into my Twitter account.
I’m flattered that people want to hear me talk about nothing.
I’m in the middle of my own ‘Project Runway’ challenge given to me by my daughter’s preschool. All the parents have to make an outfit for their kids, for school pictures, made entirely out of recycled objects. I can not believe I have homework.
I’m kind of lucky that we’ve finished shooting ‘Cougar Town,’ so I’m able to kind of just enjoy my pregnancy and be a stay-at-home mom and go to prenatal Pilates and do all that fun stuff that, if I were working, would be almost impossible to do.
I’m really into makeup. I love it! I think it’s so trendy to be like, ‘Oh, I don’t ever wear makeup,’ but it’s super fun, and I’ve always enjoyed it.
I’m so happy for anyone who chooses to get married! I want more people to join the club.
I’m so highly competitive: I just want to win.
I’m somebody who doesn’t work with a stylist. I’ll be honest with you, I’m a mom and it’s just not something I want to put money toward because it’s expensive to have somebody who helps dress you and I feel like I have to pay for preschool and so many things… so I don’t have a stylist.
I’ve always liked being funny and making people laugh. I was a cut-up when I was a kid and was always doing bits for my friends and family. I remember doing pratfalls on the playground in fourth grade for my friend and really hurting my hip.
I’ve been going to the same dermatologist since I was on ‘Freaks and Geeks.’
I’ve been on hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of auditions in my life, so it’s not unusual that I went in for ‘Glee.’ What was unusual is that it was a week, exactly, after I had given birth.
If I see myself on a worst-dressed list – and I’ve been on many of them – I tend to have low self esteem for 24 hours. I just like to feel comfortable, and I like being excited about whatever it is I’m wearing. I hate subjecting myself to that kind of criticism!
If I snack, it’s generally hummus on Rice-Thins or Nut-Thins crackers and some guacamole. If I need something sweet, I have dark chocolate chips stashed in my freezer, and I’ll eat a few to satisfy my sweet tooth – but only if there aren’t any cinnamon gummy bears around. I’m a sucker for those!
If you’re not in a place where you’re grateful that your show keeps getting renewed, and you can’t figure out a way to keep it fresh, you should pick another career.
In high school I had some famously egregious fashion missteps. I was really out there in fashion, I think because I wanted attention. I would wear crazy patterns, skin-tight pants and giant platform shoes.
In public, when my kids have not been behaving great – because that’s life, my kids are not perfect, okay – I’ve noticed other people watching me. And I felt judged, because I’m obviously in the public eye. So that’s been hard.
In your early 20s, it was maybe acceptable to have a friend who was taking all of your time and energy and exhausting you and always a drama. When you’re in your 30s, or you’re starting to have babies, you just can’t put up with it anymore, and that’s okay, because I think your priorities shift.
It can feel isolating to be a mom. I’ve been one and felt isolated.
It is important to give your kids that individualized attention while also making time for your marriage and for yourself.
It’s hard to find a way to be good to your husband, be good to your kid, and be good to yourself.
It’s interesting when people make comments about celebrities’ weight gain or lack of weight gain as if they’re a medical professional that’s treating that celebrity. Like, ‘This doctor does not treat Jessica Simpson, but thinks her weight is unhealthy.’ If you don’t treat her, then how do you know?
It’s ludicrous that my friends in California aren’t able to legally get married. It’s a civil rights issue. In 20 years we’re going to look back at tapes of these antigay people saying ridiculous things on the news and it’s going to sound as antiquated as the newsreels of horrible racists from the ’50s.
It’s nice to have the support of the LGBT community, because they’re loyal, and they’ll follow you down any career path.
It’s not all Instagram worthy!
It’s sad to me we can’t be in a place where we can acknowledge we’re all doing our best and respect the decisions other women make and even offer to help out.
My children make me cry on a daily basis about everything. Tears of joy, tears of pain, tears of sadness – all the tears, all the time.
My great-grandmother, who was known as Nana, passed away before I was born, but she and my mother were very, very close. For as long as I can remember, we made Nana’s waffles in my house. It was a weekend tradition.
My husband has no desire to work with me; don’t get it twisted. He gets paid a lot of money to write giant movies. He’s not into humoring me with my projects. But, that being said, I did have the story credit on ‘Blades of Glory,’ and writing is something that I’ve always been interested in pursuing more.
My mother accidentally gave me food poisoning. She fed me baby carrots for a snack before Christmas dinner – but they had expired in June! I threw up for the next 24 hours.
No one cares what you ate for breakfast. Unless it’s something really spectacular, don’t tweet me your breakfast, I don’t care.
Nobody wants to see a bejeweled pregnant lady from top to bottom.
Now that I’m a wiser, older human, when I do photo shoots, I specifically say, ‘Please do not airbrush my moles out.’ Because they will do it, to make you homogenized.
Six years of your life is a long time to do anything, and especially in this business, where you get so used to being nomadic and moving on to different jobs.
The good thing about being pregnant is that I don’t have to worry about sucking it in or dieting!
The idea that we all have to be Pinterest-perfect, killing it on all fronts, drinking our probiotics, remembering to have Rishi, and putting all these things in our kids’ lunches – there’s a lot of pressure to do all of the things. And we can’t do all of the things. I can do a few things, and I’ve got them nailed. I think that’s more realistic.
The rugs that I picked out and the pillows with the little owls, sort of like whimsical throw pillows – I feel like you can never enough whimsical throw pillows in your house, in your life. My husband probably disagrees.
There’s no one right way to be a person, we’re all just doing our best. So the same thing should apply to parenting and raising your children and the things you go through.
This isn’t just ‘Scrubs’ with new actors. ‘Cougar Town’ has a heart to it that’s all its own.
Very quickly, kids take your plan and say, ‘Ha!’ so you have to learn to be adaptable, or you will be literally miserable.
We didn’t name Birdie before she was born. When she came out I said, ‘I think we gotta go with Birdie, I think that’s her name.’
We have traveled with our kids since they were babies. We’ve had some crazy times, obviously, with the kids. My husband and I both work, and they just really look forward to our vacation and our time to be together to reconnect.
We’re not co-sleeping. I’m all for what people want to do in their home, but I need my bed. I’m a terrible sleeper… I toss and turn and flip, and it would just be a disaster if there were a baby there. And I think it’s important for a kid to have their own space.
When I was a teenager, I used to watch ‘Beverly Hills 90210’ – which is totally aging myself – and I’d try to recreate the makeup that they did on Jennie Garth at home.
When you go into to vacationing with kids, what people don’t get is that there is a portion of it that’s going to be unpleasant because you’re traveling with children. When people have these expectations that it’s going to be perfect or amazing, that has never been my experience.
Yes, I’m having a baby. I think it’s so hard as a woman to give yourself a break. It’s great to be healthy but you have to set a good example for your kids and know that it’s not about a number on a scale but how you feel.
You can be in Ohio and shoot your own web series, if you want. If this had been around when I was in high school, I can guarantee you that my friends and I would have been shooting our own television shows and putting them online and trying to get as many hits as possible.
You just have to focus on what’s really important in life, and that’s your friends and your family and the life that you build.
Your first pregnancy you have nothing to do except sleep and take care of yourself and go to prenatal yoga or whatever. Now I have a full-time job, I have a four-year-old, I’ve got a life that is demanding my attention, so I’ve gone to prenatal yoga once. It’s such a bummer.
Quotes by Busy Philipps
Quotes by Busy Philipps
‘Freaks and Geeks’ was a show where our individuality was really celebrated.